Last weekend, I went with my friend Laura to the shopping centre and bought a pair of milkshake glasses for moving out. I’m excited at the idea of slowly but surely moving out so I have made a list of things which I want to pick up. I am hoping to get necessary glassware and plates for my flat and then start saving for the rent & utilities. I’ve put these milkshake glasses all wrapped up in my room as a way to inspire me to continue fighting the good fight.They were cheap and they were in a pair: it seems minor to have bought glasses but I know it will symbolise my future.
Parents just don’t understand
My mum and I have gotten to the point where I feel like I have outgrown living at home. It’s nothing personal as I was telling Laura but it is pure and simple that I want to move out to live my own life. My mum believes in this collective culture believing we all have to live under the same roof until we get married. This was what my older sister did: she stayed at home until she was married but quite frankly, that is not what I want at all. I’m just not sucking on someone’s boobs like that until I am married. Living at home really stresses me out from little things like my mum’s random visitors who stay in the home and when she does not tell me to even how people make noise while they are eating food.
There is a huge sense of double standards when you move back home to live with your parents. I am trying to build a business as well as trying to fix my personal life. I feel like with my mum, there were double standards because she wants me to live at home yet she is happy to say that I am not independent and that I live at home and it’s like, what do you want then? I am looking for a new life and I just want to be free of this idea that just because you live in your African country that you have to live at home.
What to do?
I just don’t want my 20s to be plagued by stress because I cannot live alone. I have my milkshake glasses – it is time to get that journey completely started. What do you think of the African parents mentality that you have to live at home until you are married?