[Image from EBONY/Jet archives]
…..is anyone else getting the impression that it is getting hard to meet brothers these days? And is anyone else noticing that it is becoming more colourist & shadist these days on the scene? I should say that I am concentrating on getting trying to make a career for myself and I am very passionate about my project. But I have also been thinking about the future too. I don’t do short-term relationship things so the next person I go out with has to be for long term.
When I was going to visit a friend in Hackney yesterday, I saw this really black attractive man on the bus. He had a Drake-esque thing about him. I should stress I find all spectrums of black men attractive, so light and dark so in that sense I definitely do not discrimate. However, I know this is going to sound bizarre but I have noticed that I don’t ever really get looks from light skinned men. I always tend to get looks from older men (maybe 30+) and overwhelmingly they also tend to be dark-skinned. Now, I am not saying that my femininity is not validated because young, light-skinned men don’t like me as such, because my femininity is validated by me, myself & I, but I am definitely starting to notice a pattern whenever I am out and about.
Do you ever wonder if you attract a certain type of man, in terms of looks & what he is about? Again, looks are preliminary but they do not matter to me at all. I’d rather be with a man who wasn’t good looking but had a great heart.
It’s just a little something I have noticed that I tend to have the more African-guys who look at me. It makes me wonder whether light-skinned men actually like dark-skinned girls but I realise that it is very dangerous for me to make a sweeping generalisation based on that.
I like all black men from the Wesley Snipes lookalikes to the Cab Calloways of today — I just have noticed that there seems to be a compartmentalisation of darker skinned women which troubles me, because I am starting to get the impression in London that a light skinned girl can get a dark-skinned guy & a light skinned man, but it seems less likely for a dark-skinned woman to attract a dark-skinned man & a light skinned man.
Is it the same where you live?